Two Weeks-the new dog "Shut down"

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Postby groovinluv » June 5th, 2009, 6:53 pm

“Two Weeks! Give em a break!”




The Action:
“I have a new dog!”
" I found/adopted a dog!"
"I introduced her to 15 people".. " he was a bit leery but seems to like my other 3 dogs"
"she went everywhere with me " …
All in the first few days of the new home..... (!!!)

The Reaction:
In about two weeks later we get the call back to the rescue;
“I think we will have to rehome the new dog" "the new dog barked and nipped at my kid"
"we had a dog fight" “what do we do?”

Ok, folks, here it comes, the big secret to many foster homes success with a new dog that came from unknown or even not so good homes!
Doggy shut down!
Giving the new dog, post finding, adoption, buying, etc, time to adjust to you and your family and the dogs in the new environment.

Why The Two Week Shut Down?
The Two Week Shut Down is a time familiar to a dog’s mind, as it mimics the whelping box when first born, as the puppy’s eyes are not open and it relies totally on the mother’s ability to take care of it. By smelling, sensing, listening the puppy starts his journey into the new scary world.
New adult dogs come into our home the same way, “a journey into a new and scary world”
By giving the dog a “time out” the dog can learn its new world, its new people and begin to relax and blossom under the care of the new care giver.
Why we all want to run out with our new dog, show everyone our new pet, we forget that even an adult dog is now back to a puppy newborn like mind, all is new, the voices speak a new language, cars might be new, leashes and handling under nice people might be new.
Even petting and acceptance of a pet is stressful on a new dog,. “Who are you? Where did we come from? Where are we going? What is expected of me? “–the dog thinks!
Just like a new born baby we wouldn’t rush out and pass the baby from person to person, we set up a stable and save environment, our new dogs are just like that , our newborn baby.
We also give the rescue dog a bit of time to heal, mentally and physcially.

Step back for a minute and think how you might feel if you were never going to go back to your "home" and that you were expected to live with new people who didn't understand your language. What if these new people took you to all sorts of different places expecting you to greet everyone happily and feel comfortable with an overload of attention all at one time? How might you feel after all of that, to have to go to your new "home" and interact with a bunch of strangers?
It's very likely that you'd feel exhausted, overwhelmed, and ready to retreat but really have no place to go to. You might begin to act out and yell at people for coddling you and insisting that you do this and do that.

Well, many dogs are put in the very same position and the only way they know how to get their point across is to act out or "misbehave." The dog may act out by nipping at children for he didn’t understand them and was corrected harshly before knowing how he was to be around them! Growling when being moved off furniture –“ he didn’t know he couldn’t be here. What is expected ? Where am I allowed ?” Starting fights with the other animals in home –that dog here was giving me the evil eye my new humans are not leaders , I must defend myself!”



How to:
TWO WEEKS - "shut down"
For the first two weeks, (sometimes even longer depending on the dog) a dog takes in the new environment, who is the top persons, dogs, who ARE these people! By pushing a dog too fast and throwing too much at the dog we look like we are not the leaders and the dog can feel it MUST defend itself, as the leader is surely no one he has met so far.
We coo , coddle, drag the dog to home to home to person to person, and the dog has NO idea who we are.
A great way of thinking of this time is a line I stole from a friend ;
"this is the dating period NOT the honeymoon"

When you first met your "mate”, you were on your best behavior, you were not relaxed enough to be all of yourself, were you?
Just think of the things you do physically once you get to KNOW a person,
you wouldn’t run up to a stranger and hug them and squeeze them!
Imagine, if on the first date, this new person, was all over you touching you and having their friends hug you and pat you on top of the head, and jostle your shoulders, then he whisked you off to another stranger’s home and hey did the same thing.
Would you think this person normal and SAFE?
Would you feel invaded and defensive and begin to get a bit snarky yourself?
Wouldn’t you think to push these people away for obviously your date is out of their mind and they aren’t going to save you from these wierdos!!
Yet we do this to our dogs, and then get upset or worried that they aren’t relaxed and accepting of EVERYTHING instantly!
*Why do we expect a dog to accept a situation when we ourselves could not?

By shutting down the dog, it gives the dog TIME to see you, meet YOU, hear and take in the new sounds and smells of your home.
* Crate the dog in a room by itself if possible.
(Believe me, dogs are sensory animals, they know more than you think without seeing it).

* Leash (so I don’t have to correct it ..I don’t have that right yet!) This also teaches the new safe zone for the dog is around you and the humans in the home. Leash the dog right to your belt or under a piece of furniture . And this also stops the dog from reacting if you have to get him off of something like the couch, you are not reaching in and grabbing onto him, just tug gently on the leash, say "come on" and there you go. no conflict!

* No obedience like training at all, just fun exercise and maybe throw some toys for fun, leash the dog if you don’t have a fence outside..use lunge lines if you have too big a yard. But I DO NOT leave my yard, AT ALL.
No car rides, no other dogs, (unless crated beside them), no pet stores, no WALKS even, nothing but me, my home, my yard. (Unless of course the dog needs to go to the vetinarian)

* Don’t go crazy petting and handling the dog! Even petting and being “out” in the home puts pressure on a dog, as everything is so new.
Allowing the dog time to absorb and the decision to come to YOU for pets and affection can do a lot in taking pressure off a new dog.

* Exercise – but in your yard! All dogs need to burn off energy. Do fun toss the ball games in your yard or on a lunge line if no fence. Remember to just have fun, let the dog run and explore .

* Again- no walks yet! Walks are stressful for there is so much coming at you. Being a new person to this dog you have no clue how the dog is reacting to the walking environment. The dog may react to something and we start correcting it with the leash and we just installed a VERY STRESSFUL moment to the dog in what should be a fun and happy walk.

TEACH the dog by doing the shut down, that YOU are the one to look to, that you are now here for the dog! He can trust in you and look to you as its new leader!!
Then on walks you will see the dog look to you when he sees something like a kid or a dog to see what your reaction is, lessening his mind about having to defend or control the environment, he has YOU , the dog now can relax and enjoy the walk more.

*In the house I have the dog out only for about 20-40 minutes post exercise/yard times. And ALWAYS on a leash.
Then PUT THE DOG AWAY. Let it absorb and think. Even if just for a little bit.
If the dog goes to his crate on his own, he is telling you “I need a time out” allow him this time.
By having the dog out for long periods of time we are forcing the dog to keep accepting all new things , by putting the dog away we are asking him to accept a few things, then go think and absorb, when we get him out later we introduce a few more things, so the three new things are three new things, not 3 x 3 x 3 – possible shut down from the dog.

*No new buddies ! Do not introduce the dogs for these two weeks, they can be side by side in the crates if you can not totally seperate, (not nose to nose for they can feel defensive). Some dogs will bond instantly with the other dogs if we don’t bond FIRST with the dog, and this can lead to some other issues, as the dog will look to the other dog(s) for guidance and not YOU!

*Ignore Bad behavior - * Ignore crying and/or barking. If you run to the dog each time they bark, whine, or cry, you are teaching the dog that doing those things gets your attention. The dog must learn to be secure when you are not there. Use the leash to correct jumping, exploring counters, etc.

*Praise Gently Good behavior – ex. Dog is sitting nicely next to you, touch or softly pet the dog “good boy/girl” let then know you appreciate GOOD behavior. This makes naughty behavior not so fun if you ignore THAT but praise the good!

Literally in two weeks you will see a change in the dog and begin to see its honest and true personality.
Just like a house guest.. They are well behaved and literally shut down themselves these first few weeks, then post this time, they relax and the true personality begins to shine thru!


So, please, if nothing else for your new dog, give it the time to LEARN YOU as you are learning who they are!
This method works on shy dogs, confident dogs, abuse cases, chained dogs that come in, rowdy dogs, all temperaments!

It isn’t just the big ol bully smiles, its the expression, the way they start to LOOK at me, for guidance,
I gained their trust and showed them, calmly and fairly what this new world is like, they literally relax and feel safe.
There is no need to force that we are the leaders, slow easy guidance, patience, showing them what we DO want them to do in a new home instead of correcting them when they do wrong.
We install that we are worthy to the dog to be its leader!

So please for the sake of your new dog, slow down.. waaaay dowwwn.... Give them a chance to show you who they can really be!

Written by,
Stacie Sparks
Volunteer for Life Line For Pound Buddies.
http://www.poundpitties.com
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Postby cheekymunkee » June 5th, 2009, 7:38 pm

Thank you SO much for posting this!
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Postby amazincc » June 5th, 2009, 7:44 pm

Some really GREAT advise... thanks!!! :)
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Postby hugapitbull » June 5th, 2009, 8:16 pm

Awesome, and great timing for us :wink:
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Postby groovinluv » June 5th, 2009, 8:20 pm

hugapitbull wrote:Awesome, and great timing for us :wink:


Did you just take in or adopt a dog?
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Postby amazincc » June 5th, 2009, 8:21 pm

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Postby groovinluv » June 5th, 2009, 8:27 pm

amazincc wrote:http://www.pitbulltalk.com/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=29711&p=338853#p338853
:D :D :D :D :D

Thank you
So the dog was flown in, from a home where the person was sick and the dog was kenneled.

OOo I bet this dog has been thru some big changes..and yes..we will need to give Duke a time out for sure!

And remember its not the dogs home, either of them, we dont want to "force" either dog to be the leader.
They are all under your rule, and all humans (even kids!) , under fair, calm, quiet and leading rule that is.
:0 )

I will post an excercise called Find Me For Food..this too helps ALOT in the bonding and also showing that humans are here for the dog as the new leaders by giving TREATS!!
wee!
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Postby groovinluv » June 5th, 2009, 8:33 pm

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Postby amazincc » June 5th, 2009, 8:38 pm

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Postby hugapitbull » June 5th, 2009, 8:47 pm

groovinluv wrote:So the dog was flown in, from a home where the person was sick and the dog was kenneled.

OOo I bet this dog has been thru some big changes..and yes..we will need to give Duke a time out for sure!

And remember its not the dogs home, either of them, we dont want to "force" either dog to be the leader.
They are all under your rule, and all humans (even kids!) , under fair, calm, quiet and leading rule that is.
:0 )

I will post an excercise called Find Me For Food..this too helps ALOT in the bonding and also showing that humans are here for the dog as the new leaders by giving TREATS!!
wee!


Good stuff, thanks for posting. We will be driving up to get Duke, leaving TX on Monday will arrive in OH Tuesday. We will be resting on Tuesday and Tuesday night then picking up Duke on Wednesday morning for the drive back to TX. He will be stuck in a car with us for 24 hours ....that's more like a time 'in'. :wink:
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Postby amazincc » June 5th, 2009, 8:51 pm

hugapitbull wrote: He will be stuck in a car with us for 24 hours ....that's more like a time 'in'. :wink:



It will be a fantastic bonding exercise!!! Don't forget to throw in a cheeseburger or two. :wink:
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Postby groovinluv » June 5th, 2009, 8:52 pm

WOW!! You sure you dont want two more..?
haha.
j/k!!

Thats something!

And that will be one heck of a get ta'know ya!
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Postby groovinluv » June 5th, 2009, 10:05 pm

Here is a visual of one of my fosters, Kosmo.
He was an abuse case, tried and convicted, I dont know what the whole case was.

But he came in a melting down puddle , scared of EVERYTHING ...
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He would just plaster himself to my side shaking....anything sent him to his belly :(
First week, on leash still..still scared face...
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UNTIL.. gosh when he started to come around he literlly became a new born puppy!
silly...running the house grabbing toys, we dubbed him the "Helen Keller of pit bulls!"

All really by just allowing him time to ABSORB a new world, a postiive world..a better world.
He is now re homed and just as silly as ever and living with a puppy too!
What a differnce his body and face!
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Postby hugapitbull » June 6th, 2009, 8:47 am

Kosmo is beautiful. What a difference a little bit of love and kindness can do.
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Postby TheRedQueen » June 6th, 2009, 8:49 am

I :heartbeat: before and after pics! What a great set of pics showing the emotions in his face...good job! 8)
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Postby groovinluv » June 6th, 2009, 10:34 am

Thanks everyone! For reading and the welcome!

I think its amazing and really hard to tell people what the difference is in the dog until they see it themselves.
Kosmo was a great example. I still talk to his adopters, they love him so much and tell me he is STILL a year later one big puppy!
And many thought this dog was a lost cause. I have had some others that were extreme too, but I dont have their pictures loaded into this lap top yet.
Some were abused, some starved, some were chained, one pit bull was chained in a junk yard. And oh the expression on his face priceless when he came around ! And yes he too is adopted and silly as ever.
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Postby kera09 » July 3rd, 2009, 11:11 am

i loved that!!! i think i always try to introduce things with a foster to soon. some great advice!
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