Well, It has been a few weeks since I was given some good advice on Tess and her reactiveness to certain situations. trust came up a lot, and we have been actively working on that.
I have pinpointed the sequence of events a little better as well. It turns out she will get in a situation that she doesn't want to do something (ie come in the house when she wants to go out to play frisbee for example). I will call her, and she will not come. She is hopeful at this point I will join her, and seems happy. I go to get her, and if I reach for her collar to pull her in the house she gets really wiggy-her ears go back, tail down, eyes wide, and would air snap if I got my hand next to her collar. I have avoided this by using a leash as a noose and from a bit of a distance nabbing her. Once the leash is tight, she comes willingly after a breaf check to see if she can pull out of the collar. Once in the house she is fine, usually she runs to her crate a little worried, but i can hold her coolar without incident. Usually these are situations where I need to leave and she has to get in her crate. I always reward her in her crate, but sometimes it is not enough.
*edit to add, we have a sunroom that you have to go through to get out the door to outside. She will stand next to the slider in the sunroom, but I need her in the main house behind a regular door, as I do not trust sliding glass doors*
The other day, this happened, and she was naked. I tried a treat, no go. I actually was able to place a large collar over her head, but she pulled out. So I found a tighter one, and smiling after a deep breath, and talking nice but not shrill, I placed the collar on her with no major fear reaction, and was able to lead her in the house on leash. I then rewarded her when she came in. Turned out she didn't need to go in the crate, which was fortuitous.
My question is, now that we are starting to deal with the trust, I need her to do what I ask when I ask. Sometimes it will be things she does not want to do, she needs to do them anyway. I rarely ask her to do these things, and she is always compensated. This is where my positive training is failing me, I cannot do a normal correction on her of puttng her away, because she will start a fear reaction and we will back slide. However the passive- aggressive- use- my- fear- as- a- crutch -to- get- away- with- crap has got to stop as well.
Any suggestions would be appreciated.