On May 18 2007, 6:36 AM, iluvk9 wrote:I am trying to learn to be more like a girl.
Maybe that is the problem. Try being yourself for awhile. Instead of trying to change for everyone else, why not find friends and/or men who appreciate you for who you already are?
If I have to, I will drive 10 hours and kidnap you. You may not eat too well at my house, but I think I can get that self-image of yours to improve.
Make a list of all the good things about yourself. Ask your parents for a few ideas. I bet you have a LONG list.
I will start you off:
1. Compassionate about animals.
2. Kind towards people.
3. Sensitive
4. Humorous
5. Athletic (although doesn't know left from right in ski photos)
6. Willing to learn
7. Physically in shape and a beautiful face
8. Willing to listen to Joyce about life strategies
On May 18 2007, 00:10, luvmypitties wrote:Yes I do... and that is the main reason I see my therapist. I have tried to get him to go and see mine with me as mine does couples as well and he refuses to.
I have a lot more in common with guys. I never really had many girl friends growing up. I was a major tomboy when I was in middle school. I like to get dirty (like with dirt or grease or whatever...) like to work on cars, hike, kayak and such. Not many girls are like that and everything is a competion with them. I am trying to learn to be more like a girl.
On May 18 2007, luvmypitties wrote:Thanks guys. I am so confused right now. I will say if things done start getting better between me and the guy I will be done. I just dont know how to do it yet.
On May 17 2007, Favorite Kitty wrote:
and i think more often than not most men think about what its like to be with a friend thats a girl. maybe in CA, where most of the men are gay, dont think about sex all the time but the boys over here DO pervs! all of em!
On May 18 2007, 11:43, iluvk9 wrote:Or you coud give me "the guy's" phone number.
On May 18 2007, mnp13 wrote:On May 18 2007, 11:43, iluvk9 wrote:Or you coud give me "the guy's" phone number.
Nah, just post it here. I promise, we'll all be kind.
On May 17 2007, 10:00 PM, mnp13 wrote:First - Anthony, good post.and i think more often than not most men think about what its like to be with a friend thats a girl.
I strongly disagree. Sure, some probably do, but not every man thinks with the lower head - I'd prefer to believe that not even half do.
In my personal experience, the people who insist that guys and girls can't be friends are the ones with the hangup... not everyone else.
boys and girls that have lots in common and like hanging out together dont become friends. they marry each other
On 05/21/2007 11:56 AM, luvmypitties wrote:I love my therapist! I dont want to change. He is helping me with my self esteem and everything that is wrong with me. the guy is a big part of it all. I am not willing to give up on that yet! Not when the guy gives me a glimmer of hope for us.
And sorry to burst some bubbles no numbers will be given out... haha!
I ask him all the time to tell me how he feels but he nevcer really tells me how he feels. I am not sure if he is still IN love with me. things are just so different now. I am stuck at a crossroad!
On 05/21/2007 12:05 PM, luvmypitties wrote:I see where you are all coming from.
On May 21 2007, 2:00 PM, Big_Ant wrote:On 05/21/2007 11:56 AM, luvmypitties wrote:I love my therapist! I dont want to change. He is helping me with my self esteem and everything that is wrong with me. the guy is a big part of it all. I am not willing to give up on that yet! Not when the guy gives me a glimmer of hope for us.
And sorry to burst some bubbles no numbers will be given out... haha!
I ask him all the time to tell me how he feels but he nevcer really tells me how he feels. I am not sure if he is still IN love with me. things are just so different now. I am stuck at a crossroad!
You are just not getting it, and I'm afraid to say that you won't listen to anything we are saying til he completely breaks your heart.
It'll be a sad road, and you'll eventually make your way out onto a strong healthy path, but you are stuck in what you are perceiving as LOVE, when it is not . . . at least not on his part.
Good Luck!
- Anthony
On May 21 2007, luvmypitties wrote:You guys made me cry! You all are so nice to me! That is so freaking awesome I love it. I do have some self esteem and personal gratifi-whatever it was to do. I have a lot to do. I guess my life growing up has a lot to do with how I am now, but it is hard to chage something after you have been that way for 21 years!
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