Thanks for all of the really good responses...
She's such a teenager in a little body...has been for years...she's got a sister that's 11 years older so she's grown up with a lot of "older" influences...and not as many young same-age friends. don't know if that did anything.
I have to say...there is a reason I don't have kids...I just really lose my patience with them. I try...but like this time, I had to yell because she was just frozen on the spot and didn't know what to do. I didn't yell at her once we got home...even though I was frustrated.
I behaved myself.
I think what annoyed me is that NEITHER parent made her apologize...and yeah I put John squarely in that camp as he doesn't help with that.
"I don't have any idea if my dogs respect me or not, but they're greedy and I have their stuff." -- Patty Ruzzo
"Dogs don't want to control people. They want to control their own lives." --John Bradshaw